@sundialservices and @gene-pavlovsky, you are pushing me in a direction that even 2 months ago would have resulted in a passive-defensive reaction (move on, ignore the thread because my question was answered, learn very little from all this).
But because this is a smaller community, and perhaps also because I’m more willing to admit my faults, here’s an honest admission of why I sometimes willingly avoid explaining the real problem.
Precisely in the case of the question I asked in this thread, the reasoning for not explaining everything is a mix of all the below (I’m just admitting my faults in the hope of becoming better in the future. And sometimes being public about it helps).
- I am afraid that my explanation will be misunderstood, resulting in either:
a. wasting somebody’s (and my) time as they come up with a solution that doesn’t work.
b. making me feel bad about it
- I am afraid that my problem will get a way simpler solution making me look like an idiot.
- I am afraid that my problem will get an answer that involves a heavy refactor, something that I am in no mood to do.
- I tend to think that my way is the right way and just answer the damn question so I may proceed and knock my own head against something hard which is sometimes the best way to learn.
- I am lazy to explain the problem especially when it’s something large.
- I assume that nobody will really try to understand my problem.
And yes, as I typed the list above, I have come up with the “Duuuuh!” answer for each of those points and I am now fully aware that it is at least silly if not even insulting to not act differently in the future.
I almost said that the only exception is when the problem really is very complex. But even so, I have often found that through the effort of “dumbing down” the problem in order to be posted somewhere has led me to realizations that solved the question before even posting it .
That being said, there is also sometimes the “copyright factor”, a concept I actually dislike, but I somehow still sometimes have the silliness of thinking that if I post some stuff from my project somebody might steal my idea. That’s a very old part of me, but still somehow strong. The new me, however, wants to work for society, nor for oneself. Which is why this post even exists
Damn did this feel good to write!